Zany...Out of The Ordinary...Simply Me

Long Overdue….

2010-12-30T02:06:00.001-05:00

It’s been a very long time since my last post! Life, work & school have definitely taken over :-/ I have lots to tell but I want to give you a quick update on my hair. My one year anniversary is quickly approaching & I’m truly amazed at my growth! I will say with the growth comes longer washing, treating, detangling & styling time but I can’t express how happy I am with that. I’ve recently tried a sample of Cocoa Hibiscus Conditioning Custard provided by Alex at www.theGOODHAIRblog.com. I fell in love the minute I opened the jar =) The smell is amazing and the mixture was very smooth. I decided to 1st use it as a deep conditioner after doing my weekly wash. I left it in overnight and washed it out in the morning. This custard made detangling my hair THE best experience since becoming natural!! It was honestly the smoothest process I’ve had in a long time in regards to detangling my hair. I then used it as sealant on my twist. Here’s a pic of my results:

My hair was super soft & I was able to rock my twist out for the whole week without any manipulating. I’m looking forward to the official release date as to this along with her Butter Me Up (my favorite staple item) will stay in heavy rotation! Please check out and support Alex via her blog (listed above), her youtube channel http://www.youtube.com/user/iamalex07 and of course her store http://www.etsy.com/shop/safihaircare. Trust me you will NOT be disappointed!!

I’m wishing everyone a Happy, Blessed & Prosperous New Year! I promise not to stay away as long as I’ve been :)

Daily Affirmation

2010-07-05T23:40:00.004-04:00

I am a loving mother

I'm blessed with a loving & supportive family

I am a loving friend

I will allow true love to find me in lieu of looking for it

I am smart, beautiful & fabulous

I am determined to achieve all life goals outlined for me

I am ME...a loving, nurturing, respectful, caring, selfless, exceptional woman!

=0 Yayyyy

2010-07-05T21:26:00.008-04:00

So one of my best friends has decided to walk the natural path again =) I remember her doing this wayyyyy before everyone caught on!! Nikkii's decision caused quite a stir on her Facebook page, LOL...It amazes me how ignorant some people can be. I would just like everyone to know, its HAIR...It grows back people!!

Welcome Nikkii and you are truly rocking the HELL out of this caesar!!

Weekend Plans =)

2010-07-02T14:18:00.015-04:00

TGIF & Happy 4th lovely readers :-)

Thankful for this long weekend as both my mind & body are in dire need of a break! While browsing through the various articles on http://www.curlynikki.com, I came across a great article on ACV (Apple Cider Vinegar) wash http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/super-kinky/apple-cider-vinegar-as-hair-cleanser. I've tried this once but that was right before I did my big chop. After reading this article, I've decided to give it another try this weekend & replace it with my normal wash routine. I may switch my wash day to Monday evening this week since I plan to become one with water this holiday weekend =)

Until next time, CIAO!

First Henna Experience

2010-06-25T21:19:00.006-04:00

Ok so this is a month late but that's due to me not being the efficacious blogger I use to be :-/ Anywho...I tried my first henna experiement May 29th and it wasn't as bad or messy as I thought it would be. I purchased some Cassia Henna from http://www.butters-n-bars.com/. I learned a lot from the video tutorial they provide on their site as well as my communication with Sharika who is more than willing to help out a henna newbie. My mixture consisted of castor oil, honey, coconut oil, olive oil & hot water. I let it sit while I showered and then applied all over ensuring each strand was covered. I slept with it over night and rinsed the following morning. Once I got everything out, I began my normal weekend wash routine & honestly I must say the end results were fabulous!! My hair was super soft and strong. This weekend is actually my next scheduled henna treatment, hopefully I'll get to squeeze it in!

Natural Hair Update =)

2010-06-20T15:22:00.022-04:00

Hello my loves :-) Its been a while since my last detailed post but I'm back and just wanted to share with you my progress on this road called Nappturality. Here's a quick refresher for you guys. My last perm was Oct 3rd 2009 (see link http://puresimplicity-diva.blogspot.com/2009/10/ive-just-made-decision.html ) & my BC (Big Chop) was May 7th 2010. Here's what my hair looked like during this time frame:

The permed days

My transitioning day (Senegalese twist)

My BC

A month later June 13th (the result of a two-strand twist)

At the time of my BC, my hair length was 1 1/2 inches & my hair type is a 4b/4c.The products I'm using consist of Almond Oil, Coconut Oil which my hair seems to love (leaves my hair soft & manageable), Castor Oil, Unrefined Shea Butter, Herbal Essence Hello Hydration Moisturizing Conditioner (Orchid & Coconut Milk), Homemade Deep Conditioner (Hello Hydration, Castor Oil & Honey), Cantu Shea Butter Daily Oil Moisturizer, Palmer's Olive Oil Formula Organi-Gro Deep Conditioner with EVOO (Extra Virgin Olive Oil), Creme of Nature Lemongrass & Rosemary Leave-In Conditioner

In the beginning, regimen consisted of daily co-washes with any of the conditioners listed above. I baggied every evening before bed with castor oil, almond oil & coconut oil. I then switched it up a bit by dedicating either Friday's or Saturday's as my wash day. I wash my hair with my favorite shampoo Dr. Woods Pure Peppermint/Shea Butter castile soap, I was using my own mix as a DC but I've begun using Palmer's Olive Oil Formula Organi Gro Deep Conditioner with EVOO (this product smells amazing & leaves my hair very manageable!) which depending on which day I wash I either sleep with it over night or leave in for about a few hours. I also use a little Mega-Tek on my wash days. I've mixed it with some Sweet Almond oil which I believe prevents the shedding some users have experience. I end my ritual with Creme of Nature's Lemongrass & Rosemary Leave-In Conditioner which I'm not to crazy about the smell but my hair seems to love it so I'll make her happy . Once I'm done I apply unrefined shea butter & EVCO, I let my hair air dry just a little before I begin two-strand twisting my hair (I find I love my end results better than twisting on wet hair). My weekend plans depict how long I keep my twist in for.

I took a measurement today & according to my measuring tape, my hair is now about 3in. I also co-wash when I'm not twisting my hair and I use either V05 Herbal Escapes moisturizing Conditioner, V05 Tea Therapy Nourishing Conditioner or Herbal Essences Hello Hydration Moisturizing Conditioner. May 29th was my first Cassia Treatment which I purchased from Butters n Bars and the results were great!! Hair felt stronger as well as more manageable. I mixed it with hot water, castor oil, honey & evco, I slept with it over night and rinsed out the next morning. This past week has been an amazing one!! After my washing ritual last Sat, all I did was apply a little water to my hair at night before bed along with some Cantu Shea Butter Daily Oil Moisturizer lotion and then shaking my hair out with some coconut oil and sweet almond oil. My two-strand lasted the whole week without me having to do it over, I was totally shocked. I'm loving everyyyyyyy moment of my new found nappiness and can't wait to see what the future holds for me!!

Word of The Day!

2010-04-23T22:21:00.003-04:00

"Life is a train of moods like a string of beads; and as we pass through them they prove to be many-colored lenses which paint the world their own hue, and each shows only what lies in its own focus"

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Fave Song of The Month...

2010-04-16T21:38:00.003-04:00

Another song I can't seem to rid the brain of *sigh* Enjoy!! :-)

Ciao!

Quote of the week!

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Quote of The Day!

2010-03-19T16:11:00.002-04:00

"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." — Marilyn Monroe

My to DIE for collection!!

2010-02-07T19:25:00.010-05:00

So those who know me know I live for Essie Collections. I love damn near every collection they come out with. They have done it again with their Spring Collection. Here are my two faves from the collection: Neo Whimsical & Red Nouveau. What's your favorite color??

Caio for now bellas & capos ;-)

Just some food for thought!

2009-12-07T12:29:00.002-05:00

Current Mood....

2009-11-03T23:14:00.003-05:00

I'm normally the one spewing nothing but positive vibes into the air...However, today I needed someone/something to send those vibes my way!! I know things can & will turn out for the best, but that impatient beast which lurks between the intersection of positivity and negativity always seems to lure me away from the route that leads me to happiness.

Hopefully tomorrow I'm able to give that hideous creature the middle finger!

Ciao for now ;-)

One Month Anniversay!! =)

2009-11-02T09:05:00.002-05:00

Today marks a month since my last relaxer. I'm overly excited about my new journey and find myself looking for NG on a daily basis, lololol. It amazes me how things you never notice become so visible once you educate yourself. As I ride the train, bus, walk the streets of NYC I see myself in every female I encounter due to all of us running to our bi-weekly hair appoints to straighten out the beautiful curls we were born with. I'm done with damaging my hair, rocking the same dooby everyone has once they step out the salon, not knowing what my hair really looks like without applying the creamy crack every 6-8 weeks. I will admit I'm rather nervous in beginning this transition since I haven't styled my own hair since probably High School but that nervousness isn't strong enough to change my mind on what I've decided on.

Ciao for now! *muah*

Are you a Girl On Top??

2009-10-20T11:14:00.014-04:00

"You can sit wherever you want on the love-your-job spectrum, but please know that at the end of the day (which in the majority of cases is somewhere between eight and twelve hours), you're spending 70% of your waking life working and that's simply to much life to waste wishing the hours away" - Nicole Williams

The lovely Nicole Williams & my sis Ife @ the Girl On Top launch party

If your looking for insightful, no holds barred advice on how to reach the top of the career ladder, this book is definitely for you! Nicole not only provides straight to the point advice, she gives it to you with a dose laughs. I had the pleasure of meeting Ms. Nicole at The Girl On Top networking event held at The Limited Pop-Up Store located at 134 Spring St (FYI - we found some fabulous work attire at this location, ugghhh) this past Thursday and not only was she inspiring, she was extremely down to earth. I loved how she took the time to work the room, greet all her supporters, sign books and take pics all with a smile. This book is definitely a good read and suggest it to anyone who's ready to climb that ladder of success!

Same page or different chapters???

2009-10-20T09:14:00.004-04:00

"Is it a bad thing if our feelings aren't on the same page?". Its definitely possible for two people not to be on the same page in regards to feelings in my book. The question is, how long is one willing to sit idly awaiting for this person to join them on their level. Women love harder then men, that's a known fact. However, I find its a complete waste of time when you've realized your putting in way to much time and effort into something for the individual to still hold you in the "I Like You" category!

Love hard but stay wise!!

Ciao for now ;-)

I've Just Made the Decision...

2009-10-19T09:02:00.004-04:00

To go natural! Its been a long time coming but with my constant unhappiness with the state of my hair after each salon visit, the 6-8hrs spent in the salon on the one down day I have out the week & my current inspiration/motivation/support factor who herself made the transition I've finally said enough JUST DO IT & that I did! October 3rd was my last perm hopefully for the rest of my life spent on god's green earth. I was totally shocked at all the information available via the Internet to help one with making this their final decision. I've learned so much over the last 4 days from my gf & the websites she's recommend that its made me ask myself why haven't I done this sooner.

I wanted to start my first natural entry with what my hair looks like today this way a difference can be seen when I post an updated pic three months from now. There will be no BC (Big Chop) here, I'm really not ready for such a big step. If transitioning the long way doesn't work out as planned, then I will either choose a transition style I love or the BC. I'm super excited with this choice and can't wait to see the results. I'm mentally preparing myself for the long road ahead of me but I do know reverting back to relaxers is definitely not an option for me!! I've discussed this change with a few I hold close to me and of course received mixed reviews. Some questioned why would I want to do something like that. My response to them is, why wouldn't I want to embrace my natural beauty. The question we should be asking is why are we altering our natural hair in order to be accepted by those who feel our hair makes us who we are. I'm totally over damaging my hair, mind, body & soul in order to fit in with the status quo. If I'm not accepted for who I am based on how my hair looks, that's their lost not mines. Stay tuned for updates as I'm sure I will have plenty to say through out this transition, lol.

Ciao for now ;-)

Dreams Really Can Come True!

2009-10-07T23:03:00.018-04:00

Although the pic says be afraid not to try, I've sadly fallen into the group of people who are afraid to try. I won't go as far as saying I've given up on my dreams, but I will say I've placed them on the back burner for wayyyyyyyyyy to long. A girlfriend of mines called me expressing her future plans to me and if I thought she was crazy for even considering quitting the realms of Corporate America to pursue her dreams. No one should ever feel their dreams are not worth pursuing!! My response to her was, "You should definitely do it. You will never know until you go for it, shit I wish I could make such a move with all my responsibilities". It was her response to my statement that completely blew me, "But why wouldn't you?? I mean it is something you really want & we both share the same responsibilities so why can't you make the same decision?" I've always allowed being a single mother, bills, being the responsible one deter me from doing what I'm most passionate about. Is there ever a right time, right place?? If we don't take that leap of faith on our dreams, how will we ever know it can one day become a reality. Making my dreams come to fruition will happen, it may not be today, tomorrow or this year but it will happen within this life time. How many of you have a passion for more than what you have??? How many of you are determined to make it happen by all means necessary??

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

2009-10-04T14:42:00.007-04:00

November 1st will mark 14 years since the passing of my Great-Grandmother who was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. Cancer affects many households and is known as one of the most common cause of death amongst women of all ethnicity's. Let's continue our fight against all forms of cancer by donating, walking, volunteering, anything to help find a cure for this deadly disease. The above charm bracelet retails for $5 at my webstore www.youravon.com/afladger along with many other Pink Ribbon items. 100% of the profits made from any Pink Ribbon item is donated to Avon's Breast Cancer Crusade. Please also support Avon's Walk for Breast Cancer October 11, 2009. For more info, click on the following link http://www.avoncompany.com/women/avoncrusade/index.html

Ciao :-)

Statue of Limitations on Relationships??

2009-08-28T23:30:00.013-04:00

A statute of limitations is a statute in a common law legal system that sets forth the maximum period of time, after certain events, that legal proceedings based on those events may be initiated.

Now, were gonna add a little twist to this definition so it can apply to relationships. Should relationships also have a statue of limitation? Recently I've notice women entering relationships not based on what their looking for in a man, but in terms of keeping up with everyone within their circle. Does being in a relationship for 2+ yrs warrant an engagement ring? Do you leave after 2yrs due to not getting a ring?? My cousin and I had a rather long conversation recently on this topic and her thoughts were, "I was that person who rushed to get engaged only after a year of our relationship and were did we end up??? Broken up, hating one another for only god knows how long & me seeing rushing a commitment from him was the ultimate demise of our relationship"

My personal views are, if all is well...why mess with it?? Personally, if I can have what I call the "Goldie/Kurt" (who have been together for 26yrs w/o marriage) I'm good!! I consider their relationship based on pure love and having a piece of paper to solidify their union is absolutely unnecessary!

Will you rock with a "Goldie/Kurt" or will you bounce after putting in a few years, all is well...shit, all is GREAT but just that ring & paper are missing???

Ciao for now ;-)

Stupidity at its finest....

2009-08-12T12:28:00.002-04:00

This is just ridiculous. Listen, get over it...He's been YOUR President for how long now??? If you can't move past your prejudice views....Maybe you should consider resigning your post!!

So it seems...

2009-08-09T11:24:00.003-04:00

everyone is on the shaved-side bandwagon. I'm a die hard Keyshia fan but I'm not 100% sure if I'm feeling this look.

What do you guys think???

Just Doesn't Make Sense to Me

2009-08-05T00:26:00.007-04:00

Ok, so I received an email on the following story and literally rolled my eyes. I've already felt our justice system is overly abused and cases like this just prove my point more and more. As a graduate of this same school, I feel this lawsuit is definitely without merit and should be tossed to the side!!! Personally, I feel Ms. Thompson is taking out her frustrations of the current job market out on the school through the legal system. Monroe has always provided assistance for both their current students and graduates as far as providing leads on open positions (which are posted through out their school), resume assistance, interview preps, every thing possible to help prepare someone land the job they want. Should the school be held accountable if after the interviewing process your not called back? Is it their fault if you feel the position being offered just isn't right for you? A justifiable suit or just another case of a free handout....You be the judge!!

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Ciao Bellas & Capos ;-)

Say It Ain't Soooo....

2009-08-04T15:00:00.000-04:00

As of August 1st, New York's sales tax has increased half a point sending it up to 8.875%!! In this day & age, every point matters. This new change will now cost New Yorker's an extra 50 cents on every hundred we spend. I just find it hard to understand with all these increases, why aren't salaries steadily increasing in order to help individuals tread above water??? Inquiring minds definitely want to know!!

Put aside my...

2009-08-02T16:03:00.005-04:00

fear of social anxiety and became an Avon representative!!! Even though I may come across to some as a social butterfly, I'm reallyyyyy not that quick to open up and start a convo with strangers. However, I love damn near all of Avon's products and believe 1000% in what they stand for as an organization, so why not become part of their team! Please show support and stop by my web store, www.youravon.com/afladger

Ciao lovelies!!! ;-)

Quote of The Day

2009-07-28T16:53:00.004-04:00

"If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul."

~ Rabbi Harold Kushner ~

Yadda, Yadda, Yaaaaa....

2009-07-28T16:10:00.006-04:00

Today has been a rather blasé day for me :-/ (that's how my face has looked literally all day, lol). I think I did it to myself...After a wonderful Monday, my mind became compressed with a slew of issues all vying for that number one spot within my brain. I find I become very anxious when I have a head full of ideas and goals and quite frankly, I feel this anxiety is what becomes my ultimate downfall in completing every single thing I want to do.

I picked up the cutest journal while carousing the aisles of Barnes & Nobles and decided to write down each & every idea, thought, goal that pops into my head. Next to each item, I will list a REALISTIC completion date(having a realistic date is key in accomplishing anything!!!). I've heard numerous times how helpful this process has been so why not give it a try!

Is This Really The End...

2009-07-27T21:26:00.003-04:00

Or a brief hiatus?? Reps for both sides are stating how saddened both Reggie & Kim are over this break-up but hope to maybe one day reconcile the love they've once shared. I really had hopes for these two!!! I hope all works out for them in the near future....Doesn't it suck how celebrity relationships tend to have a shorter life span than goldfish nowadays?? *SUCKS*

CIAO MI AMORS!!

STOP, READ & FOLLOW!!

2009-07-27T21:15:00.003-04:00

If you incorporate this into your daily regime, you'll see how life becomes the easiest task to complete on your daily to do list!! Learn to enjoy life more, don't let it fly by you....You'll definitely live to regret it!!!

Ciao ;-)

Take Two of These &

2009-07-27T17:06:00.005-04:00

Smile as if it was contagious!! While googling for a pic to describe how uncontrollably happy I was on this rainy Monday, I came across the cutest pic and found something even more interesting! These lovely pills above exist in a store out in Barcelona called, "Happy Pills". Two of these a day will definitely keep my happy motor running. So I guess until a store of this nature opens up here in NYC, a bag of Skittles placed oh so diligently in a dainty pill bottle will have to suffice ;-)

Now be a good patient & re-up on your HAPPY PILLS!!! :-)

*BESOS*

Left Side of My Brian.....

2009-07-26T16:30:00.001-04:00

This weekend became turned out to be a therapeutic one, something very much needed. I would have to say I’ve learned a LOT about myself and something’s need to be addressed immediately. It’s always a good thing to take a mental break…sadly for me; I haven’t done so in a VERY long time. Here are a few things I’ve learned:

1. Focus way too much time and energy on helping others with their issues. (Learning how to let go and allowing others to learn for self)
2. Worry over things I have no control over. Fretting isn’t going to resolve them so I must learn to literally LET GO, LET GOD! (Handle the things I have control over & praying on those I don’t)
3. Not having more time for self. (Taking an hour or so a day focusing on ME)
4. Work harder on reaching the goals I have lined up. (Less talking, more action)

Other than working on my mental state, I was able to spend some wonderful QT with my fam as well as some muchhhh needed QT with my man, Mr. Sun who has seem to be rather busy elsewhere this Summer. I came home this weekend with a lovely tan and I’m very thankful to my hon Mr. Sun for sticking around longer than normal, lololol.

Well mi amors, I’m growing rather lethargic while riding this comfy LIRR home….Hope everyone had a wonderful and relaxing weekend!!!

Ciao for now ~besos~

Stays Killin It...

2009-07-25T20:49:00.003-04:00

No need for words!!

Is She Serious???

2009-07-25T11:42:00.005-04:00

I'm a little perplexed as to why Ms. Steffans feels she's the "RELATIONSHIP GURU". How To Find, Seduce & Keep The Man You Want...Hmmm, very interesting. This title leads me to believe her intent during her past...maybe present whorecapdes (lololol, cute new slang word!) was to in fact steal someones man since none of the men in her past where in fact SINGLE. After the first two books, you would think the backlash was enough to keep Ms. Steffans where she belongs....in the dark!! Can't fault her though...If it wasn't for the many men she's entertained over the years, she wouldn't have enough to put together three best-sellers!!! Hustling at its finest!

Maybe I should pick this book up and add to my comical collection since I laugh every time I hear the title "The Vixen Manual" lololololol.

My New Thought Bible

2009-07-23T14:45:00.009-04:00

It can be a difficult task maintaining a positive state of mind with all one has to deal with on a daily basis....However, its something I feel we all should work harder on doing!! Here's a quote from this book...It truly opens your eyes and gives you a completely new perspective on how warped our thinking process is!!

"Its is a pity, too, for there are so many problems created by life itself that dilute our happiness that it is indeed most foolish to distill further unhappiness within our own mind. How Foolish to manufacture personal unhappiness to add to all the other difficulties over which you have little or no control!" ~Norman Vincent Peale~

Its funny how with all that's going on in the world now, we literally take the time to add more negative ish to our already swamped brain. If you have the time, give this book a run through!!

Ciao for now!!

Hate it or Love it?????

2009-07-23T14:29:00.005-04:00

For weeks Solange has been referring to an upcoming drastic change via twitter & she's finally displayed her change. I loveeee everything about Miss Solange & think the cut fits her!

I would love to hear your views!! Fashion Do or a Fashion No-No??

"Only God Before Their Eyes"

2009-07-14T08:15:00.000-04:00

Hey my blogging fam...Yes, yes its been a minute since my last post but I'm bacckkkkk!!!

Here's my latest addition to my tatt family...This phrase caught my eyes & I just couldn't shake it so I decided to make it a lasting imprint ;-)

TTYS!! *MWAH*
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Let The Countdown Begin!!

2009-05-17T17:39:00.002-04:00

Two weeks from today my lil/big man will be 11yrs old!! Whew, time sure does fly by & god knows how much I miss the baby days (definitely cheaper then compared to what were shelling out now, LOL, LOL). I'm truly blessed to have such a wonderful son =)

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TGIF!!!

2009-05-15T16:09:00.002-04:00

HAPPY FRIDAY ALL!!! Some of us need the above more than others...So drink it up (responsibly of course), live it up & laugh it up!!!! Have a wonderful weekend =)

Train No-No's by Adina, LOL

2009-05-15T13:00:00.000-04:00

So in a perfect world, there would be a train etiquette class offered quarterly buttttttt in reality, my dream of that happening will continue being just that...a DREAM. If a few of these rules were followed, I think we will all get to work feeling less uuuhhhhh I guess the proper word would be HOSTILE, LOL.

Rule #1 - Please, puhleasseee learn the word excuse me!! Yes the train is crowded, yes your just trying to fit in but damn saying excuse me as you knock everyone down to get in won't kill you!

Rule #2 - If the person in front of you is not going into the train as soon as the doors open, it may just be due to the 100 ppl running out the doors & their trying to avoid getting knocked down. Please don't add to their frustration by pushing them out the way so you can make it in. Dude, were not standing here taking in the scenery!

Rule #3 - Please cover your damn mouth when yawning, sneezing, whatever your doing with your damn mouth, just cover the shit up!! I'm not up to smelling your hot ass breath nor up to catching whatever may be breeding in your system!

Rule #4 - Please know we don't care how old you are!! It does NOT give you the right to knock us down just so you can get a seat...Respect ya elders??? Well, I respect those who respect themselves & others so if your acting like a wild beast thinking you'll be excused due to your age...Think again!

Rule #5 - Respect others personal space!! Ummmm, seriously...We did not wake up together so why must we be face to face??? Dry humping is also not an option...Well unless your a great piece of eye candy!

Rule #6 - We can all tell if we can fit in a seat or not...I don't care how tired you are, be considerate of others! If you know the seat is small enough to where a person wearing a size 0 can't fit in it, don't squeeze yourself in the seat & not expect a good ass cursing along with dirty stares!!

I can go on & on & on but I'll leave it off with some key factors for right now. Maybe I should send this to MTA...Hmmmmmm, LOL

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Check This Out!!!

2009-05-13T14:11:00.004-04:00

I loveeeeeeeeeeeee participating in contest & what's better than partaking in one that's being offered by one of my favoriteeee bloggers =) Head right over and check out my girl Jillian who's hosting a contest which offers some wonderful prizes!!!! If your not a follower....I don't know what your waiting for, but please do so now ;)

My Jilly Beanzzzzz is THE best & always manages to keep me in positivity check, LOL, LOL. So now that your done reading this, head over & enter her contest already!!!

Something To Ponder....

2009-05-13T08:13:00.004-04:00

While listening to Wendy Williams yesterday (yea I LOVE her show...so whatttt, LOL), a caller called in with a very interesting question! The caller recently met someone about a month ago & they started dating. After a few dates, the individual revealed to the caller they were HIV positive. The caller wanted to know if he should continue dating this person or move forward.

My question to you is, would you consider dating someone you may be really into once you found out they were HIV positive?

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Career Slump!!

2009-05-11T09:00:00.005-04:00

Normally one goes through a phase called soul searching...A method used to find yourself, what you really want out of life, who you want to share your life with, blah, blah, blah, I think you get my drift. Instead of me finding out who I really am, I'm trying to find out where I want to be career wise and its not an easy task at all :/ Hopefully I can sort this mess out sooner than later!!! For now, I will move this off my already long list of mental stress

So am I the only one....

2009-05-10T18:15:00.005-04:00

Who thinks all the excitement over these supposed leaked nude pics of Cassie unnecessary?? I mean seriously people, this is not the first nor last time we will see nudies of celebrities!!! Could she even be the one responsible for the suppose "leaked pics"?? Yeah & again she will not be the first nor last celebrity to do so!! Leave the girl alone, if she likes to world checking out her what her momma gave her then who are we to get so upset?? LOL, LOL

P.S. - Her six pack is sick!!! Hahahahahahahaha

Happy Mother's Day!!

2009-05-10T18:06:00.004-04:00

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.”

~Washington Irving~

Happy Mother's Day to all the beautiful, smart, strong, hardworking, fabulous mother's, aunt's, grandmother's, great-grandmother's, godmother's, step-mother's, all the women who dedicate their lives to raising us into the smart, driven, hardworking men and women we are today!!!

LOVEEEEEEE YOU MOMMY!!!!!!!! :)

How Nasty Are You????

2009-05-08T08:15:00.004-04:00

Ok ladies, this is something that's always gotten under my skin...I know we were all raised to know whenever the ladies room is used, your to wash your hands!! Well so I thought until I've seen a rather large amount of women come out the stall, take time to give themselves a look over & then head straight out the restroom as if they never used it, YUCKKKKKK!!!

I found it even more disturbing after reading a poll conducted by Glamour (June Issue) which stated 24% of the women polled DO NOT wash every time after using the bathroom. SMH, ladies come on. Then we have the nerve to complain when ppl sneeze and cough w/o covering their mouth due to the germs their spreading. Well just so you'll know, germs die once their airborne! However, all the germs you now have setting up shop on your hand will be passed right along to your loved one, co-workers, whomever you come in contact with. Again, YUUCKKKKK!!

So while your making sure that fly away strand is intact & your gloss is shinning oh so fiercely, please do the world a favor & take 15 extra seconds to properly wash with soap after tinkling!!

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Spring Look

2009-05-07T19:25:00.003-04:00

Recently I've become so torn in growing my hair back naturally or keeping my short look. A gf of mines recently directed me to a site where you can find helpful tips on how you can manage your hair while going through the transition process of relaxed hair to natural. It seems so easy on paper but the maintenance behind it just seems a lot for someone like me who's constantly on the go. I'm definitely not into cutting my hair anymore which must ppl who go natural do. Hopefully I can decide on something soon but for right now, I'm content with my short cut!!

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How Do You Rate This???

2009-05-06T16:14:00.004-04:00

Ok soooooo anyone who knows me knows that I simply loveee Rihanna's style!!!However, I'm not sure if I'm totally won over with the ensemble she choose for the MET Ball. Its different, cut is chic/funky, but I think the jacket was just a little to much.....What do you guys think???

P.S. - This sidenote is mostly for my Jillian because she always manages to show me love even when I'm MIA!!! Sorry for my pause...If only I could blog from my Berry, my life would be complete, LOL. I've been doing a lil of everything Jilly Bean =) including the buiness. I'm acutally hoping & working on getting the biz structure finalized sooo keep ya fingers crossed babes :)

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA....

2009-04-10T19:00:00.001-04:00

Ok so the Old Navy commercials are getting funnier and funnier!!! This one has become my favorite thus far! Enjoy

10-10-10

2009-04-10T15:00:00.002-04:00

Ok so everything we do comes about after a carefully, thought out plan...Well it should & majority of the time we don't but hey, we try :/ Anyway, I came across a great article called "The Best Decision Making Tool Ever" while breezing through the pages of Glamours May issue and its really a great tool for everyone when trying to figure out your next move!!!

The 10-10-10 rule helps you sort out things going on in your life by figuring out how this change will impact your life in 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years. After applying this to something I've been indecisive of, it made things 1000x's clearer to me and helped immensely with finalizing my decision.

I strongly recommend everyone give this tool a try & see how it helps your decision making process in figuring out your next best move!!!

:)

Quote of The Month

2009-04-10T12:30:00.000-04:00

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude."

Maya Angelou

Will he ever be....

2009-04-09T14:18:00.007-04:00

recognized as a real rapper???? Ummmm, I personally feel NO!! His career has fallen off a loooooooong time ago, something he apparently hasn't realized. Everyone will continue to see him as "Lil Bow Wow", the cute little boy with the cornrows Snoop brought on stage with him back on his Chronic Tour in 93. His constant display of pompousness, cockiness (nothing wrong with having it but going over board with it is a major prob!!), verbal attacks on other rappers, in my book seem to hinder his growth as an aspiring, well known rapper. Humbleness will take you to great lengths....Maybe Shad Moss should try that route & see where it leads him!

Oh by the way, I think his 6th or 7th album New Jack City 11 is in stores now. Just an FYI for those who are really concerned, LOL, LOL. Gosh I'm terrible at times ;)

Where Does Time Go....

2009-04-09T09:38:00.020-04:00

When you have so many items on your life's To Do List to complete??? Blogging has become my escape from the real world, the world where I can be care-free & worry free. However, with all that's going on within the last few months, as well as the next few months, I haven't even found the time nor energy to escape to my blogging wonderland I've moniked PureSimplicity -sighs-.

Work has been hectic (won't catch me complaining about that...well sometimes, lol), I've been working on the details of my son's surprise graduation, finalizing the details of my business (damn, I let the cat out the bag...How lucky are you Jillian *wink*), working on another project with my sister all while trying to squeeze in some me time, QT with the mini me, QT with the beau & getting 7 full hours of sleep (yeah okay). When your working hard on accomplishing your heart set goals, you find time flying by but remind yourself once you stop, that goal may never be reached :/ Its like a Catch 22 basically!!! Your damned if you do, damned if you don't!!

As always, I miss my blogging family dearly and ask for forgiveness when I go MIA :).

My baby....

2009-03-29T23:09:00.003-04:00

Today was my princess 3rd birthday!!! I love my god baby to death...Look @ that face, how can you not, LOL, LOL. She had THE best birthday yet...A trip to Barnum & Bailey Circus, a shopping trip to Toys R Us & a surprise party waiting for her at home to end such a special day!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AUNTIES BABY!!!

A Lovely Day :)

2009-03-28T21:37:00.006-04:00

Today was a great day!!! I had the pleasure of having brunch with SOME of my favorite girls...A few weren't able to make it due to other things but we'll get together again soon. Neways, we went to a great restaurant called G-Bar here in the Bronx for their Champagne brunch. We had an awesome time!!!! Unlimited Mimosa's, Bellini's, Bloody Mary's, Champagne, Sodas combined with an open buffet. We shut the place down today, LOL, LOL. After hours of endless laughs, unlimited drinks & plenty of food...Everyone went home happy & elated!!!! Ohhhh, I also surprised the ladies with little gift bags just to thank them for being such great friends :) We had so much fun, we've decided to make this our monthly spot!!!

Go, Go, Go, Go.....

2009-03-27T15:15:00.002-04:00

Shawtyyyyyyyy its ya birthday, your gonna party like its ya birthday, LOL, LOL....Happy Birthday to my brother from a different mother!!! Dre has been nothing but the TRUEST friend one can have & I'm blessed to have someone like you in my life!!!! This birthday is a veryyyyyy special one for you & those close to you so live it up & party like the rockstar you are!!!!!

Love yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa :)

TGIF!!!

2009-03-27T13:26:00.006-04:00

Its a lovelyyyyyyyy Friday & I dare not complain!!! Our CO office had a late opening this morning...You wanna know why??? Inclement weather, smh...Its now 20 degrees out in CO with a blizzard warning for the next 24hrs. Sweeties, I'm truly blessed for the high 60's were expecting today and will not sit here like "Negative Nancy"(Thxxx for that Jillian)and complain allll damn day long, SMH!!!

Have a FANTABULOUS weekend everyone :)

Video of The Week..

2009-03-26T20:30:00.000-04:00

I'm truly digging Miss Solange!!!

Well I'll Be Damned!!!

2009-03-26T19:28:00.005-04:00

Remember this adorable young lad out in Britain who was very excited to become a dad??? Well, it seems as if Alfie's 15yr old sweetheart Chantelle was rather busy during their relationship!!! Two young men have come forward since the birth of baby Maisie claiming they may potentially be the father of Chantelle's baby girl. Alfie's mom decided the only way to prove who in fact is the father of baby Maisie, a paternity test would be needed. Unfortunately for Alfie, test results proved he in fact is not the father. This situation is a sad and troubling situation!! Sad because for a young CHILD, Alfie stood up to the responsibility of taking care of this child. Something most grown men can't even do. Troubling because who in the heck were watching over these children while they were running a mock making babies?? SMH...Hopefully a valuable lesson can come out of this unfortunate mess. I will use this example every time a young lady calls this house asking to speak with my mini me!!! LOL, LOL.

http://news.aol.com/article/british-boy-isnt-father/398888?icid=aimDBDL2_link1-b

Ehug....

2009-03-25T15:29:00.009-04:00

The Newest Female On-line Mag which consist of an e-community of strong beautiful women of all races colors and creeds who will provide a myriad of information from Fashion / Beauty / Relationship Advice to Entertainment News and Current Events.

Definitely check out & subscribe to this site!!!

http://www.ehugmag.com/

P.S. - Launch Party coming soon...Stay Tuned for more info

Count Your Blessings!!

2009-03-25T12:57:00.003-04:00

Things could be a million times worst for many of us during this financial crisis our economy is facing. It amazes me how many of us still find something to complain about, even get down right pissed!! SMDH @ you!! I'm thankful every morning I open my eyes to have a job to complain about, a roof over my head, bills paid on time, food on my table and clothes on my back! I think its amazing any company during such difficult times is able to allot money for bonuses, raises, profit sharing, or any extra cash of that matter to compensate their employees. If your receiving any of these awards companies are NOT obligated to dish out, honey be THANKFUL and not a miserable ungrateful tyrant!! Shoot, I'm happy with just receiving a paycheck, LOL.

SMDH....

2009-03-24T22:37:00.003-04:00

Soooooo tomorrow the MTA board will be approving the unanticipated fare hikes which will cause everyone to just quit their jobs since it will take damn near whats left of our paychecks to commute to & from work!! I'm literally at a lost for words...

Here's what the fares will be looking like as of May 31st. Should I take up biking it to work or maybe join a car pool??? Ayyyyyeeeeee MTA what are you trying to do to us???

Single subway or bus ride: From $2 to $2.50
1-day unlimited MetroCard: From $7.50 to $9.50
7-day unlimited MetroCard: From $25 to $31

14-day unlimited MetroCard: From $47 to $59
30-day unlimited MetroCard: From $81 to $103
Express bus cash fare: From $5 to $6.25
7-day unlimited express bus pass: From $41 to $51
Access-a-Ride: From $2 to $2.50 per ride

Cash toll on major bridges and tunnels: From $5 to $6.50
E-Zpass toll on major bridges and tunnels: From $4.15 to $5.26
Cash toll on minor bridges and tunnels: From $2.50 to $3.25
E-ZPass toll on minor bridges: $1.55 to $1.96
Long Island bus: From $2 per ride to $3.50

Smitten....

2009-03-12T13:15:00.007-04:00

Ok so I've recently reconnected with someone from my past (something I normally don't practice for various reasons), well refer to him as S for now. Well S was a beau from the past back when relationships and what one expects from them weren't on the brain. Our time together, even though it was short, was honestly one of the best relationships I've had when I sit and think about it. He was caring, extremely attentive, laid back, honest & at such a young age...very family orientated (guess this has plenty to do with the large amount of siblings, niece's & nephews). Well long story short, I moved from the area that brought S & I together....We lost contact for quiet a few years....Bumped into each other & have been enjoying our time together ever since. I will say, I've been VERRRRRRRRY happy since we've reconnected to where I find myself doubting the sincerity of what is said :/ I know it goes totally against what I've been working on in reference to remaining positive with everything I do but I think I'm allowed to have my doubts every now and then when it comes to the topic of relationships....Right???? :/

I'll continue enjoying S for who he is and how he treats me for as long as its around!!! :)

Hmmmmm this sounds like a great question to pose....How many of you believe in giving second chances or what some may call moving backwards in time???

VEXED!!!

2009-03-11T19:00:00.001-04:00

Lord knows how much I'm trying to maintain my sanity but being trapped in a hot, crowded train underground for 45 mins is reason enough for me to lose it!!! WTF, WTF, WTF...I'm so flippin tired of this non-sense!! Maybe if I send 100 letters of compliant with various alias, I can @ least receive a temporary if not permament peaceful & speedy ride home over the nxt few months :rolling my damn eyes:

WTF you staring @???? Uggghhh lord please get me off this thing before the next announcement states, "Ladies and Gentlemen, We Apologize For The Delay but Where Being Held Due to a BITCH SLAP!!!" >:O

The TRUE love of my life!!!

2009-03-10T21:03:00.004-04:00

Sooo with my mini me's 11th birthday only months away...I'm starting to travel the road of nostalgia!!! I remember when I use to just smell his breath when he was 3mths old, how everything use to make him crack up, his first step, his first full sentence, "Oh Shit Momma" (crazy thing, all the boys in my fam's first full word was SHIT...What a mess!!) Now I'm here trying to figure out what Junior High School he should go to, what sports he should play & if he's old enough to get a part-time job, hahahahaha...Shoot, at the rate this child is growing...I'm going to have to really consider pole dancing as a second job, LMAO.

"Everything mommy does, its all for you...The QT time sacrificed is to make your future that much better...The punishments are only to ensure you know right from wrong...The endless kisses will last till mommy goes to meet her heavenly father!!!"

Loveeeeeeee you Jordan!!! :)

Suggestions Anyone

2009-02-27T13:00:00.002-05:00

First, please excuse my bed...It doesn't always look that messy, LOL. I'm looking for a chic & sexy fit to go with these boots!! I'm definitely thinking of rocking some leggings but top wise, I'm completly @ a lost. The boots are a grayish/black color....Any suggestions??? This fit is for the club which I haven't been in a loooooooooong time (perfer lounges now more than ever!!) but for my boo's bday's, I make the exception ;)

Ok So....

2009-02-27T11:00:00.002-05:00

I've envisioned this new look of me this year & I actually think I can pull this one off!!! I literally see it in my head every dang day so I've chucked it up as this is what the new me is too look like....Phase one will take place nxt wknd so hopefully you guys will see those pics no later than the 13th of nxt mth since we will be celebrating someones bday (she shall remain nameless right now) and since we know how to party....It will take a few days to recover, LOL. I hope I LOVE this look because even though it looks right mentally, it may not look so hot in person!!

Ummmmmm...........

2009-02-26T15:15:00.004-05:00

Am I the ONLY one who's not following this whole Chrihanna scenario??? I was so over this the day after it happened. However, the world is still very much involved, smdh. What amazes me is how everyyyyone else has a spin on this incident as if they were there and if you were there, why didn't you help??? I think its time we & the media walk away from this sad incident and allow these two young individuals move forward with their lives!!!

Oh & for all of those who are chanting "CHRIS IS GOING DOWN", "HE CAN KISS HIS CAREER GOODBYE" & "IT'S OVER FOR YOU CHRIS" need to go sit themselves in a corner somewhere & shut it because you guys were the same people talking ish about R.Kelly pissing all over the place but yet ya'll still running around buying his cds, smdh.

Quick Note...

2009-02-18T23:11:00.003-05:00

Ok so this is just a random post because I can't contain my excitement....For the last week I've been on a mental pause due to all the tasks I have lined up on my To Do List of 09. There's one HUGE and special goal I've really been busting my derriere on and this evening, I've made a break through. I would love to go into full details with you guys on this one, but until its almost finalized....I have to keep this one under wraps. Trust, I will keep you guys updated!!!

Ok, I'm exhausted so I'm going to take my booty to bed!! Nite My luv's :)

Need To Step My iTunes Game Up!!!

2009-02-15T11:27:00.005-05:00

Ok so I have this 8GB Nano with exactly 6.8GB of free space....How lame am I??? LOL, LOL...I must really dedicate a day to compile all of my favorite songs & albums and fill up all this free space!!!

I have a problem with remembering song titles and artist so feel free to leave comments of your hottest songs you feel I would enjoy so I can add those to my list as well!!!

So far I know there are about three songs I want from Coldplay, a few tunes from T.I., Amerie, Jennifer Hudson, Bey, J.Holiday, Anita Baker, Taylor Swift, Adele, ughhhhh sadly that's all I can remeber off the top of my head but I did make a little list of other tunes while @ work on Thursday of songs I loveeeee the most while listening to the radio. Hopefully I'll be able to post another blog stating, "Guys guess what....I've used up all available space" hehehehehehehehehe

Have a great "ALL-STAR" Sunday everyone!!! :)

Sigh

2009-02-14T21:04:00.003-05:00

My mini-me has come down with a really bad cold :( Normally he goes about his day as if nothing is wrong when he's sick. However, this cold seems to be winning the battle.

Mommy loves you baby & will make you all better so you can return to your most favorite activity.....Driving me batty, LOL, LOL

Happy Birthdayyyyy ;)

2009-02-14T00:00:00.001-05:00

Today is HIS birthday....Hmmmm, maybe that's why he's such a special person...How cool is that to be born on the day cupid created to unite everyone in love....HAPPY BIRTHDAY POOKIE BEAR ;)

Sooooo....

2009-02-13T23:30:00.001-05:00

This is how I looked when I fell asleep watching TV with my little big man (yea I don't think I've ever mentioned that my 10yr old is almost my height...which is 5'8). I was suppose to hit the gym today after work but realized I was really tired and just wanted to get home. Since the week doesn't leave enough time for us to spend some down time together, I decided we'll lay up on the sofas and watch some good ole TV....Let's just say he watched loads of TV while peeking to see if mommy was ever going to get up, smh....Hence the reason why I'm up blogging so late

TGIF!!!

2009-02-13T22:57:00.009-05:00

Thankkkkk goodness for the long wknd!!!Tomorrow I will begin my new membership classes for the church I've recently joined (yayyy me) following that up with a Valentines Day brunch with my boo's (my girls closest to me), my mini me & my goddaughter whom I loveee to death!!! After that, I've decided to take some me time and hit the salon for a nice wash & set then head straight to the nail salon for a nice and relaxing mani & pedi :). Sunday evening my girls & I are gathering for our monthly girls nite (Minus Peg's but we'll forgive her this time...Maybe, LOL). Then I will end this lovely weekend by doing nothing but relaxing allll day Monday....Welll I'll get up to hit the gym but after that, the bed and I will become the best of friends for the rest of the day!!!

I hope you guys will have a relaxing and joyous long wknd as well :)

Slacking, SMH

2009-02-13T16:14:00.004-05:00

I've been slacking majorly on my blogging as well as checking out my favorites blogs!!! Well as of this evening, I will be back on my blogging ish so look out for my comments!!!! :)

Just so you'll know.......I've MISSED you guys muchos!!!!

Have a great, longggg weekend all

Having a Severe Amorous Moment....

2009-02-13T16:01:00.004-05:00

Not because Valentines day is coming up but all the time recently. Have you ever had that one person that no matter what goes down, just the sound of their voice or the sight of their face takes you away from every negative thing trying to invade your whole being?? Well HE does it to me all the time.....

This is how I feel....

2009-02-11T16:51:00.004-05:00

Mostly everyday!!! What's crazy is when I'm happy, people always want to question why are you so damn happy, smh. Did something have to happen to cause my happiness??? & because you've made it your business to go through life miserable for no damn reason I'm suppose to do the same??? Man please, life is way to short to walk around in pure misery!! I'm happy because I'm able to wake up every morning & thank god for allowing me to see another wonderful day....I'm happy because I get to see my pride & joy every day when I wake up & before I close these beautiful brown eyes....I'm happy that I've been blessed with my job, apartment, clothes, food, air, shit you see it, I'm happy I got it!!! So instead of looking at me like I'm crazy because I'm walking around to damn happy, look at yourself and ask why are you so damn miserable ;)

Quote of The Week

2009-02-11T16:05:00.003-05:00

I ran across this quote recently while reading some references & for some reason I can't seem to shake it from my brain....I've altered it a little so it can apply to me personally ;)....In lieu of the word MAN, I've chosen to use WOMAN & HER.

Enjoy!!

"No Woman Who Is Occupied In Doing A Very Difficult Thing, And Doing It Very Well, Ever Loses Her Self-Respect"

- George Bernard Shaw

This is Exactly........

2009-02-05T13:12:00.008-05:00

How I've been looking the past few weeks!!!! I've found myself twice waking up in the middle of the night next to my laptop asking myself when did I even fall asleep....My constant thoughts of how all this hard work will pay off in the long run as well as Peg's and my bro Dre's verbal reinforcement of this statement are the only things which keep me on this 24hr grind!!!! My faith in what god has in store for my future also gives me the fuel I need to stay up those extra hours doing what I do. I want to say THANK YOU to you guys for all your support and motivation because honestly, I really wouldn't be going IN as hard as I am without you two!!!!!!!!!

I would also like to take this time out to THANK BCU, Zara, Jillian & Brother's B for all the inspirational words you guys have left on various blogs!!! You guys are THE best :)

Well, I'm about to hit the gym and pray for a major energy surge!!!!

Hi...........

2009-02-05T12:09:00.004-05:00

My name is Adina & I'm an addict....An addict of Blackberry of course :) I'm come to the understanding I have a SEVEREEEEEEEEE addiction when it comes to my phone....If only Tmo would incorporate Rollover mins in there packages, things will be that much better!!! I honestly can NOT stand talking on the phone whether its my cell or land line....If it wasn't required to verbally interact with my brokers, I probably wouldn't even answer my job line, smh....I have to admit my addiction is bad but hey, who cares??? I still communicate with everyone....Just through email, text, IM & BBM (Blackberry Messenger which is super awesome!!!)

I'm patiently awaiting for the new Curve pictured above to become avail as to my 8300 is on the verge of calling it quits!! Its been a wonderrrful ride with my lovely Curve but our time together must come to an end :(....I'm sure I'll find the same pleasures I've received from you with your twin and I'll even dress it up with a pretty new hot pink skin case....Ummmm I just realized I'm overly excited about this phone sooo I'll just end this post with a note to Tmo.......HURRY THE HELL UP ALREADY DAMN IT!!! LOL.

Have a FANTASTIC day everyone :)

Deep and Meaningful Words....

2009-01-31T21:40:00.004-05:00

So I was skimming through the February issue of Essence magazine and came across a very deep and true paragraph written by the Editor-In-Chief, Angela Burt-Murray and felt the need to share it with my fellow bloggers. I don't know about you, but I've been feeling this year is filled with nothing but positivity, success & happiness for many of us....As long as were willing to accept it!!! Negative energy will only hinder you from receiving what's truly yours....Let's fill our world with nothing but positive thoughts and reap the rewards of such behavior!!!

"Sisters, in this period of unprecedented challenges, we can focus on the negative or we can embrace the positive. We can live in fear and worry, or we can use this time to celebrate our progress, find the lesson and the opportunity in our circumstances, refocus on our purpose, and nurture the precious gift of life. We can look outside ourselves for answers, but we must also reach inside and find that reservoir of strength that has always sustained and moved us forward as a people" - Angela Burt-Murray

Are Things Really This Bad??

2009-01-30T15:54:00.002-05:00

Due to our countries current economic woes, murder-suicide rates seem to be doubling. The most touching was the recent case out in CA where a husband & wife decided in lieu of burdening anyone with the responsibility of taking care of their 5 kids and relying on others to assist them in caring for their family, to take their own lives as well as their children. Both parents were recently laid off from their medical technician positions at the hospital which they were employed. Another family in OH may have faced the same fate when the husband was suffering from what officials are stating stress related issues due to his recent job loss. However, in this case, the husband had recently regained employment with his former employer over the last three weeks.

Its perfectly understandable for individuals to feel overwhelmed with their current financial situation because we are facing hard times but are these issues with your life?? Your innocent child's life??? I think NOT. I am a single mother of a 10yr old who handles all responsibilities on my own!! Times get VERY hard for me at times but the thought of taking my own life more less the most precious gift I've ever received in my whole 31yrs is just unthinkable!! Instead of me walking around with the "woe is me" mentality, I wake up every morning thankful for all I have and continue to pray for my many blessings.

Life will not always be an easy path for us to walk. We must take the good with the bad and remember everything we face in life is only temporary. However, its totally up to us how we deal with each difficult issue we may face!!!

My deepest condolence's to the Lupoe Family and The Meeks

How Dare She.....

2009-01-29T21:34:00.004-05:00

Go from a size 2 to a size 6, maybe 8...SMDH @ the media!!! Well if they think she's a fat, they don't want to see me flaunting my size 12/14 shape...That's right, I'm a thick chick and what. I think Jessica still looks beautiful (just not feeling this fit @ all)!!! Honey, rock those curves proudly and for those haters stating how obese you are.....You know which finger to give them ;)

Its sad how the media makes any size larger than a -zero to be considered obese and unattractive. This depiction of weight only adds to the many issues our young women face today and honestly needs to end. There's NOTHING sexy about skin and bones. Young girls are becoming more and more focused on how much weight their gaining instead of loving themselves for who they are. Beauty is only skin deep (yes its cliche but absolutely true). Your outside appearance does not represent who you are on the inside. Never mind what others say, as long as YOUR comfortable with who you are, make no changes!!

Quote of The Week

2009-01-28T22:00:00.001-05:00

Normally I only post one quote. However, these two really spoke to me so I decided to make this weeks quote a double whammy :)

Enjoy!!!

"Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens." - Eric Hoffer

"Circumstances and situations do color life but you have been given the mind to choose what the color shall be." - Eric Hoffer

Soooooo......

2009-01-28T16:59:00.005-05:00

I've finally narrowed down what my next tattoo will be and where I want to get it....I'm sooo excited and decided to share this excitement with my BFF Peg's. We've decided to make this a girls day out and be there for each other (mostly her, LOL...Luv you boo) while getting them done. I loveeeee getting inked up, LOL...I know I must sound crazy but I live for the excitement of getting a new tat. Did I mention how much I FEAR needles??? It amazes me how I sit throw a tattoo session with no probs but have to mentally prepare myself for a shot, SMDH @ me!!!

How Often Do You Orgasm????

2009-01-28T15:51:00.009-05:00

While on chill mood today, I read this article on health & body tips/advice. In the article, one thing listed as a must do to help keep you on track with sticking to your staying healthy goal was having multiple orgasms with or without a partner. How interesting is that?? Not only are orgasms a great form of releasing stress, it can help keep us living a longer, healthier life.

Well ppl, go out and have allllllllll the sex you need....It's for your health ;) Just please continue to handle your biz safely!!!!!

Friendship Poem

2009-01-28T13:26:00.004-05:00

"Sharing good times with good friends is the greatest joy. This is the stuff that makes life worthwhile. Whether sharing a meal together or a good conversation, there is nothing more fulfilling then spending time with friends. We must be thankful for the friendships that come our way for not all are blessed with the skills to form deep relationships. Those of us that do have friends must never take for granted the gift bestowed upon us."

Many of us tend to take for granted the TRUE friendsships we have by becoming so engrossed in our own world. We must not lose sight of these relationships and begin to appreciate them just as much as any other relationship were involved in. As the old saying goes, "You Never Know What You've Got Till It's Gone". Frienships come and go but TRUE friendships will survive a whole lifetime!!!!

How Funny Is That.....

2009-01-27T16:35:00.004-05:00

So out of my boredom, I take this little "What Does Your Birthday Mean" quiz sent to me by one of my girlfriends and how funny is it the end result actually applies to me. Check it out.

"You are friendly, humorous and full of energy. You are open-minded and do not care for minor details. Your weak point is your hot temper. Your Love, You are willing to start off in one-sided love affairs because you strongly believe that you will eventually win his/her heart. On the other hand, once you are together, you always want to do things your way, which is often the fire starter. You usually run in and out of love quickly."

Now ain't that some shit!! LOL, LOL

Todays Random Conceptions.....

2009-01-27T13:47:00.019-05:00

Why do ppl always stand in front of the doors on both the bus and train when there's so much free space once you step all the way in?

Why do ppl toss the restroom at work when they are the same ones who have to use it on a daily basis?

Why can't ppl accept when their wrong?

Why do ppl wake up angry and make it their business to take it out on the world?

Why do ppl sweat the small stuff when there's so much more to life?

Why do we put our all into those who aren't deserving?

Why do we seclude ourselves from the world when all isn't right?

Why do we choose to be there for those when they haven't done the same for us?

Why do we sacrifice our happiness in order to make others happy?

These are just random things that run through my head during my commute to and from work....The list is actually longer, but these are some which stood out the most

Obsessed

2009-01-25T22:04:00.006-05:00

Obsessed is a new thriller due out this spring starring my chocolate boo, Idris Elba (ooooh how I love this man, LOL), Beyonce and Ali larter who I think is also a great actress. Beyonce has stepped her acting game up with her recent hit, Cadaillac Records. However, based on what I've seen in this trailer, I think this movie could also be another hit for Mrs. Carter. I'll definitely be checking this one out...Mainly for my chocolate honey dip Idris, hahahahahaha.

Check out the trailer

Finally.....

2009-01-23T22:30:00.004-05:00

I'm veryyyyy happy Keyshia's next video was for my FAVORITE song on her new album "A Different Me". I've watched the video a total of four times....Ok so maybe not but who's counting??? LOL, LOL.

Take a glimpse!!!

Its The Weekend.......

2009-01-23T13:00:00.008-05:00

and its time for us to kick back, relax and think of nothing but.....RELAXING!!! That's exactly what I'll be doing with my handsome mini me :)

HAVE A GREATTTTTTTT WEEKEND EVERYONE!!!!!!

J.Crew Sample Sale

2009-01-23T09:45:00.005-05:00

This weekend, J.Crew is having a Sample Sale!!! What a way to kick off the weekend :) Here's the info.

January 20 - January 25
Tuesday
10:00 am - 7:00 pm
Wednesday
10:00 am - 6:00 pm
Thursday
10:00 am - 7:00 pm
Friday
10:00 am - 6:00 pm
Saturday
11:00 am - 5:00 pm
Sunday
11:00 am - 5:00 pm

for Women, Men & Kids*
clothing & accessories
some stock, mostly samples
new shipments and styles arriving daily
Men's & Women's tee's & polo's now 2 for $15
Men's & Women's cashmere now $50
Women's suits now $100
other select reductions available, too

If your interested in other sample sales, check out www.clothingline.com for all the latest information regarding dates & vendor information. Happy Shopping!!!!

"I've Declared This My Year!!"

2009-01-21T22:30:00.023-05:00

I've always declared, " This new year will be my year" (how cliche is that, smh). However, I feel this year WILL be my year with all my being!! Every year I write out a list of goals I want to accomplish but never pushed myself to see them through. I've always said I want to do this, I want this, I need that, but never continued with the steps necessary in order to grasp them.

This year will be a different year for me. No more procrastinating (which by the way I'm GREAT at, LOL), no more talking about what I want or should do, no more allowing the naysayers to tell me my goals are unrealistic. These words will NO longer stop me for making my dreams come true. Our president has definitely proven to us all that anything we put our minds to could be OURS as long as we continue to have hope & believe within ourselves!!!

I've been blessed to see our first African-American president walk gracefully and confidently into the White House our ancestors built and I refuse to allow his work & our their work go in vain. We've come to far to stop pushing for all we want and deserve in life.

This year, I have made my list of goals and have declared this year to see some if not all through fully. Patience, strength, positivity, drive, motivation and a great support factor of positive, reinforcing individuals are all necessary to make these things come alive!! I will suceed in all I do regardless of what barriers I may encounter.

"If you're walking down the right path and you're willing to keep walking, eventually you'll make progress"

- Barack Obama

"Laugh Of The Day"

2009-01-21T20:50:00.002-05:00

Todays train ride home was just long for no damn reason. However, it perked up as I was approaching my stop. A young lady standing began to lose her balance and it appeared to me she felt her phone call was to important to use common sense and hold on to prevent her from falling!! Long & behold who's yelling OMG & falls right on top of the women sitting behind her??? Yep, "Miss Hello Can You Hear" me now.

I tried holding it in but it was toooo damn funny not to laugh. You would've thought by now she'd gotten the hint & hold off all calls till she was off the train....Noooo not her, as soon as she got back up, she was back to her in progress phone call. SMH, I hope her call was worth her close encounter to an evening ass whopping!!!

Oh Happy Days

2009-01-20T10:00:00.016-05:00

Even though I'm here working while most are watching our 44th president being sworn in, I'm too damn happy to allow anyone or anything alter my mood. I so wanted to take the day off but I felt that wasn't going to happen once I'd put in the request and its a little to early in the year to start using my days since I have so many other things I would need to do with them.

Thankfully Cablevision has made my life that much easier by creating the DVR box so I won't miss a thing. I'll be able to catch all the highlights of the inauguration after work with my BFF Peg's and some other really cool individuals @ Ultra so I'm not to disappointed I wasn't able to make the trip out to DC or be at home to watch it all go down live.

I hope everyone is enjoying this glorious day just as much as I am!!!!! This my friends is a day of pure joy and should not be affected with any form of negativity!

Unconditional Love

2009-01-19T14:00:00.003-05:00

What TRUE love looks like!! Simply LOVE it

Are You Kidding Me???

2009-01-17T19:00:00.002-05:00

Why, whyyyyyyyyy is this MAN/CHILD getting his own show??? Now we all know I am a fan of some reality shows....The non-trashy ones like, "The First 48", "Gangland", "American Gangsta", "Kimora: Life in the Fab Lane", just to name a few. However, these finding love shows are just flat out ridiculous!!!!!!! Since VH1 seems to give anyone a show, my girls and I should hit them up with our ideas for a reality show. Hmmmmmmmmm............

"HALO"

2009-01-17T13:00:00.015-05:00

Ok so I will openly admit I was NOT & I'm still not really feeling Beyonce's latest album (Pls forgive me loyal Bey fans, LOL). However, Halo is thus far my FAVORITE song on the album and I'm loving the concept of the video.....Hmmmmm I wonder if Michael Ealy co-starring has anything to do with my love for the video, LOL. The words are deep and many of us can relate.

Enjoy!!!

Hopefully I'll Master This...

2009-01-16T13:00:00.005-05:00

position with only a few short classes =/. A friend of mines suggested taking Pole Dancing lessons and its something I'm actually interested in. Since a few friends & I are planning on adhering to a serious work out plan this year, we've decided to incorporate a few classes within the normal work out plan mix. However, I'm honestly more interested in mastering the art of Pole Dancing. After viewing some videos on Youtube, I've found this is a serious, skilled, seductive form of art!! I can be a little clumsy as well as shy at times but I've decided to put that behind me and follow through with my plans.

Maybe I'll even post some pics of me making a fool out of myself while sliding down the pole, LOL, LOL.

TGIF!!

2009-01-16T11:00:00.005-05:00

Well the weekend is finally here amongst us and I'm happy to see it but not happy with the below zero weather coming along with it :( Anyhoo....I will be enjoying my long weekend with those I love the most!!

Have a great weekend everyone!!!!

Zany...Out of The Ordinary...Simply Me

Long Overdue….

Daily Affirmation

=0 Yayyyy

Weekend Plans =)

First Henna Experience

Natural Hair Update =)

Word of The Day!

Fave Song of The Month...

Quote of the week!

Quote of The Day!

My to DIE for collection!!

Just some food for thought!

Current Mood....

One Month Anniversay!! =)

Are you a Girl On Top??

Same page or different chapters???

I've Just Made the Decision...

Dreams Really Can Come True!

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Statue of Limitations on Relationships??

Stupidity at its finest....

So it seems...

Just Doesn't Make Sense to Me

Say It Ain't Soooo....

Put aside my...

Quote of The Day

Yadda, Yadda, Yaaaaa....

Is This Really The End...

STOP, READ & FOLLOW!!

Take Two of These &

Left Side of My Brian.....

Stays Killin It...

Is She Serious???

My New Thought Bible

Hate it or Love it?????

"Only God Before Their Eyes"

Let The Countdown Begin!!

TGIF!!!

Train No-No's by Adina, LOL

Check This Out!!!

Something To Ponder....

Career Slump!!

So am I the only one....

Happy Mother's Day!!

How Nasty Are You????

Spring Look

How Do You Rate This???

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA....

10-10-10

Quote of The Month

Will he ever be....

Where Does Time Go....

My baby....

A Lovely Day :)

Go, Go, Go, Go.....

TGIF!!!

Video of The Week..

Well I'll Be Damned!!!

Ehug....

Count Your Blessings!!

SMDH....

Smitten....

VEXED!!!

The TRUE love of my life!!!

Suggestions Anyone

Ok So....

Ummmmmm...........

Quick Note...

Need To Step My iTunes Game Up!!!

*Sigh*

Happy Birthdayyyyy ;)

Sooooo....

TGIF!!!

Slacking, SMH

Having a Severe Amorous Moment....

This is how I feel....

Quote of The Week

This is Exactly........

Hi...........

Sigh